The Quarter Life Lull

It has been a little while since my last post. Truth is, I just haven’t had much to say. I was chatting with a friend of mine about this last week. I have noticed that I have been unintentionally pulling away from my friends in this phase of my life. I just feel like there is nothing to say that I have not already said. There is nothing new going on, I still have no job and no greater prospect than I did the last time I spoke to anyone. I am bored with my life, so why would anyone else be interested in what is going on?

When talking to this friend, he told me that he has been experiencing the same thing. It seems as though many of my dearest friends are in this same situation. We were continuously warned about the impending quarter life crisis, that we assumed it would be tumultuous. Turns out, it is just a big lull. It is not the transition from school to the real world that has been difficult, it’s what comes after that. It’s the waiting for the dream job to come along, waiting for the opportunity to move to the city you want to live in, waiting for the next step to appear.

I firmly believe in creating your own opportunities in life. I understand that you have to work hard for what you want. I get all of that. What no one ever tells you is that sometimes you just have to be still and wait for the next door to open. There is only so much knocking you can do, at some point you just have to wait for someone to answer. And it’s boring. And it sucks. And I am not alone. The more I reach out to my friends that I have been subconsciously avoiding, the more I realize that there are a lot of us who are waiting for someone to answer the door. Maybe we have more to talk about than we all think…