Meeting New People

They say it is more difficult to meet new people as an adult, whether it be after college or after 30 or after whatever event in you life makes you an actual bone fide adult. Looking back on my days as a college student, I am not sure I ever just met anyone. I have never been sitting alone in a coffee shop or walking around a bookstore and just met a stranger and actually kept up with that person. I have maybe had a two minute conversation with someone new, but never have I become friends with an absolute stranger. I have never dated anyone that was not either in my immediate social circle or just outside it. I have met people in class, at work, or through other friends and that is it.

How is it that people meet anyone that is really and truly new. Maybe in days long past before cell phones were equipped to keep us individually entertained for hours on end. I can’t remember the last time I was sitting somewhere alone and looked approachable. Or saw anyone who did. If you see someone sitting alone in a coffee shop or a bar, they are almost always on their phone. Even if their companion has simple run to the bathroom. No one likes to spend so much as two minutes with their guard down where a stranger could possibly approach them. So then why do people complain about the struggle to meet new people as adults? Do adults really want to meet new people. Do I?

To be honest, I am not so sure I do. I like my current people. And through them, I could potentially meet new people that I am already predetermined to get along with. I say all this while sitting in a Starbucks, headphones in typing away on my laptop. Everyone in here is focused on something else. Books, laptops, cellphones, other people. It is rare for anyone to so much as make eye contact with anyone else. So the question I have is: Is it really harder to meet people as adults, or have we just totally and completely stopped trying?

The Fault in Our Stars by John Green

 

The Fault In Our Stars by John Green

This book has been on my list for a while. I had not read it up until now because of the description. I would see the book on some “must read” list and add it to my Goodreads list (a site I highly recommend for anyone who has those moments where you want to read a new book and remember there was a book you wanted to read, but cannot for the life of you remember what that book was). When I went to find a new book to read, I would read the description and usually full on delete it from my list. The book is about a girl with cancer. I hate books about anyone with a terminal illness. I refuse to read them. I don’t enjoy books that I know immediately are going to end badly. No books with terminal illnesses, no books with animals as the title character. I enjoy books that make me laugh and books like these rarely do.

This book made me laugh. It is definitely a book about kids with cancer. There is no denying that. However, the main character is a jaded teen with a sarcastic edge and that makes all the difference. It is a truly heart warming story that is both funny and sad. I am not going to tell you it is all sunshine and rainbows, it isn’t. What it is is a fresh take on a book about cancer. One that, in my opinion, is actually readable. The film starring Shailene Woodley comes out in June, which I will absolutely see and likely love. If you are looking for a new great book, this is quite possibly it. If you are hesitating because it is a book about cancer, I hear you, but assure you, you will not be disappointed.

Valentine’s Day

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I love Valentine’s Day. I never really understood why people hate it so much. I get it: you’re single, or (God forbid) just broke up with someone. But, Riddle Me This? How can anyone hate a day that’s sole purpose in our modern society is to celebrate all things pink and chocolate. Let’s be honest here, these are my two favorite things. Relationships come and go, crushes will always crush, but chocolate and painting everything pink will last forever.

This year, I will do what I have done almost every year. I will curl up in my pink pajamas, with something chocolate (in a shiny pink wrapper) and spend my evening with my favorite leading man, Cary Grant. It is not a day to be sad or to sit at home alone and cry. To be clear, I will be sitting at home alone, and I will absolutely cry, but not because I am sad. It will be because I will be watching An Affair to Remember and I possess human emotions (not so hidden meaning: if you do not cry during An Affair to Remember you DO NOT possess human emotions). It is a day that was meant to celebrate love. Love that was and love that is and love that is yet to come.

So for the single ladies: cheer up, pop in a mid-century classic, and remember this: Valentine’s Day when in a relationship is often a let down. Crowded restaurants are not very romantic, the wait staff is trying to hurry you because there is a two-hour wait for all the people who forgot to make a reservation, and prix-fixe menus often leave much to be desired. But Cary Grant will never let you down.

Need a suggestion? An Affair to Remember is the ultimate Valentine’s classic. In case you are not aware, it is the film the women are constantly referencing in Sleepless in Seattle. My all time favorite is The Philadelphia Story co-starring Katharine Hepburn and Jimmy Stuart (for which Stuart won his only Oscar for Best Actor). If you are more of an Audrey than a Katharine, go for Charade a bit more of a thriller than a romance (often referred to as “the best Hitchcock movie Hitchcock never made”), but plenty of mush for those who still hold to romantic notions. Alfred Hitchcock’s To Catch A Thief, which I ESPECIALLY recommend if you have not yet fallen in love with Grace Kelly, whose real life love story is one for the fairy tale books. If you are hoping for more of an anti-Valentine movie, North by Northwest. Also Hitchcock, but I would argue, more Hitchcockian than To Catch A Thief. And finally, in honor of the very recently departed, The Bachelor and the Bobbysoxer starring a lovely, 19 year old, Shirley Temple in a charming tale of puppy love.

Hope you have a great Valentine’s Day either with the love of your life or the love of mine.