Meet Me in Saint Louis

In about a little over a week, I will be leaving St. Louis and moving to the West Coast. So as a tribute to the city where I was born and raised, I asked around for everyone’s favorite local spots. Here is what we came up with.

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Favorite Places to Eat and Drink:

Favorite Places to Eat and Drink (Coffee and Breakfast):

Favorite Places to See a Show

Museums and other Activities:

Favorite Parks

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My Funny Valentine

We are a mere day away from Valentine’s Day and so in honor of that I asked the group to submit their favorite Romantic Comedies. Some are more romance than comedy, and some more comedy than romance. Some may require a box of tissues because the ending is more heartbreaking than “happily ever after” and some may require a box of tissue because you are laughing so hard that you are crying. So here is the list I have compiled, broken into categories to make it easier to find what you are looking for this year. Each is complete with links to IMDb so you don’t get the 2005 Pride & Prejudice starring Matthew Macfadyen and Keira Knightley confused with the 1995 Pride and Prejudice starring the one and only Mr. Darcy, Colin Firth, and Jennifer Ehle.

Based on a Jane Austen novel:

Pride & Prejudice

Clueless (1995)

Pride and Prejudice (1995)

Sense & Sensibility (1995)

Emma (1996)

Bridget Jones’ Diary (2001)

Based on a Novel:

The Notebook

Anne of Green Gables (1985)

The Princess Bride (1987)

Under the Tuscan Sun (2003)

The Notebook (2004)

P. S. I Love You (2007)

Old School:

Breakfast at Tiffany's

The Shop Around the Corner (1940)

To Catch a Thief (1955)

High Society (1956)

Breakfast at Tiffany’s (1961)

Charade (1963)

The Essential 80s:

Sixteen Candles

Sixteen Candles (1984)

The Breakfast Club (1985)

The Sure Thing (1985)

Say Anything (1989)

When Harry Met Sally (1989)

The Golden Age of Rom-Com:

You've Got Mail

Pretty Woman (1990)

My Girl (1991)

Sleepless in Seattle (1993)

While You Were Sleeping (1995)

The American President (1995)

My Best Friend’s Wedding (1997)

The Wedding Singer (1998)

You’ve Got Mail (1998)

10 Things I Hate About You (1999)

Never Been Kissed (1999)

21st Century Classics:

How to Lose A Guy in 10

Sweet Home Alabama (2002)

How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days (2003)

Love, Actually (2003)

13 Going on 30 (2004)

The Holiday (2006)

Sydney White (2007)

Definitely, Maybe (2008)

Forgetting Sarah Marshall (2008)

He’s Just Not That Into You (2009)

Bridesmaids (2011)

A Little Quirky

Moonrise Kingdom

Benny & Joon (1993)

Amelie (2001)

Just Friends (2005)

Lars and the Real Girl (2007)

Juno (2007)

WALL-E (2008)

(500) Days of Summer (2009)

Midnight in Paris (2011)

Moonrise Kingdom (2012)

Academy Award Winners:

Shakespeare in Love

The Philadelphia Story (1940)

Annie Hall (1977)

Forrest Gump (1994)

Shakespeare in Love (1998)

Brokeback Mountain (2005)

And now for something completely different:

Jennifer's Body

Chasing Amy (1997)

High Fidelity (2000)

Jeux d’Enfants (2003)

Jennifer’s Body (2009)

Silver Linings Playbook (2012)

And there you have it. Hope you all have a fantastic Valentine’s Day!

Top Ten Thanksgiving Foods

For this addition of Adventures with Friends, I polled the group to determine what were the all time best Thanksgiving foods. There were some that were new to me, some that have never been absent from my Thanksgiving table. Here is the ranking:

10. Stove Top Stuffing: Not everyone’s cup of tea, for sure, but the familiar taste of un-messed around with Stove Top stuffing can be one of the most comforting comfort foods I have ever known.

9. Dinner Rolls: On a holiday that is all about the carbs, what can be better than bread itself?

8. Mashed Sweet Potatoes: When plain ole potatoes are no longer enough. It seems like every dish made of traditional potatoes now has a sweet potato counterpart that is quickly rising up the list of Thanksgiving favorites.

7. Sweet Potato Casserole: Another sweet potato favorite. Though some might say this is the dish that brought sweet potatoes to the table in the first place.

6. Potato Casserole (Also known as Party Potatoes): Potatoes, cheese, what more could you ask for?

5. Green Bean Casserole: The only honest to goodness vegetable to make the list, though by the time you are done it hardly looks like a vegetable. Exactly how Thanksgiving was meant to be.

4. Homemade Stuffing: Some would argue that it is not quite as good as Stove Top (just me then?), but for those who prefer ingredients that don’t come from a dehydrated box, homemade stuffing is the way to go.

3. Turkey: The traditional main dish. When you think of Thanksgiving, you think of turkey. There is no denying that. However, tradition does not seem to be enough for the old bird to win Thanksgiving.

2. Mashed Potatoes: Of all the potatoes that made the list. The old fashioned mashed potatoes are still the king of potatoes.

And the winner is…

1. Pumpkin Pie: I will admit, this one is my all time favorite. Clearly, I am not alone. If I had to forego every other item on the Thanksgiving menu for pumpkin pie, I would happily do so.

To Soon?

The subject of when to put up Christmas decorations always seemed like a clear answer to me. After you finish all your Black Friday shopping, you take a nap (because you woke up around 2am) and then you turn on the Christmas music and decorate the house. From then until New Years, it is Christmas time.

For the last several years, it seems like the timeline keeps creeping forward. Black Friday shopping starts on Thanksgiving day. Most stores are now open at 6pm on Thursday, though some are open as early as 6am on Thursday morning. There use to be a magical moment when you would go shopping the day after Thanksgiving and suddenly everyone had Christmas stuff everywhere. Christmas came over night. Now it is far less magical. Christmas comes gradually. Some stores put everything out the day after Halloween. Some stores start in early October. Hobby Lobby starts in July.

I totally get that people decorate their homes on the day after Thanksgiving and therefore stores should begin selling decor prior to Thanksgiving. I also understand that the retail industry needs to pull out all of the stops in order to make their Christmas sales goal, but by bringing Christmas out too early, are we missing out on the holidays that fall has for us? Does the greedy side of Christmas overshadow Thanksgiving. Be thankful for everything you have, buy going out and buying more that you could ever need? Not to mention us suckers who miss out on the holiday all together because we are being forced to work on one of the most major holidays of the year.

I get being prepared for Christmas. Some think that by getting the shopping done early, you then have time to enjoy the holidays. And I can totally see that. Though for me, shopping is one thing that makes Christmas so special.

Christmas is my all-time favorite time of year. I love shopping for other people. I love the cold weather. I am still happy when it snows in March. I love that everything is festive and covered in glitter and lights. I love that everyone dresses up. I love that you see the family members that you haven’t seen in a year. I love that people make a point to see each other. I love the magic of Christmas that no other time of year can replicate. I say that I wish it was Christmas all year round, but wouldn’t that take away the feeling when you finally get to unpack all of the decor, turning on the music, watching your favorite movies?

I think the general consensus is that it is fine for the stores to start getting prepped early as long as they don’t overshadow the holidays that come before Christmas. Halloween and Christmas do not mix. Remember to be thankful for everything you have before rushing out to buy everything you don’t. And whenever you want to start celebrating Christmas, go for it, just be fair to those who like to wait. And a special request from one of my contributors, please only have your Christmas lights up from Black Friday through the week after New Years. People can avoid the stores, but they cannot avoid their own street.

I Wish You Would Not Wear That…

There are no cut and dry rules when it comes to fashion. Everyone is entitled to their own style. However, there are certainly some choices that may be saying more about you than you realize. We live in a world where people will judge you based on the clothes you wear. My entire career is based in this fact. There are clothes you should and should not wear to interviews, to auditions, to Christmas dinner with your girlfriend’s family. You clothes may be saying more about yourself than you realize. And here are some things we would like you to avoid:

Once you officially enter adulthood, whatever that means to you, it is probably a good idea to reevaluate your wardrobe. I can pinpoint the time in my life where I stopped wearing sweats on a daily basis and started establishing what would become my style. That transition took place somewhere between my senior year of college and my first year of “real life.” This also means it is time to stop shopping at clothing stores geared toward teens. For example, I do not shop at Forever 21 anymore, because 21 came and went years ago and there merchandise is not suitable for adults. For men, this may include Abercrombie, Hollister, Pac Sun, and other such stores. If it is a brand you sought out in high school, it is probably time to move on (unless you were wearing Tom Ford in high school, and then please, carry on). P.S. the whole “Affliction” thing was over before it began. If you are still wearing these t-shirts, please burn them immediately, they were NEVER ok.

Another thing that needs to happen once you consider yourself an adult, wear clothing that fits you. If you have to walk like the Penguin from Batman Returns to keep your pants from falling off entirely, you should find better fitting pants. If I can see your underwear, you should find better fitting pants. If you pants are so tight, they no longer leave anything to the imagination, you should find better fitting pants. Bike shorts, running leggings, yoga pants. These things are fine if you are currently riding a bike, running, or doing yoga. These things are not acceptable for meeting someone for lunch.

You should also take colors and bold patterns into consideration. There are some guys who can pulls off colors that you cannot. And that is ok. Same with bright or bold patterns. This is all determined by your own coloring and personality. I cannot wear orange. It makes me look like I am from the Jersey Shore. A friend of mine refuses to wear yellow because she is blonde and believes it makes her look like a banana. Certain colors will clash with your skin tone and should be avoided. My hard and fast rule for bold clothing choices: Your clothes should only be as loud as your personality.

I have a personal vendetta against men in tank tops. If is is 90 degrees or higher and you are going to be outside, I can forgive you for this, but I cannot forgive the sleeveless t-shirts. If it looks like you Hulked-out and ripped the sleeves off of a t-shirt, I am so not ok with that. If you want to look like a super hero that’s cool, but the Hulk is a poor choice. Try a super-hero t-shirt with the sleeves still intact. Try wearing something that Bruce Wayne would wear (which was Armani is the Christopher Nolan series). And I don”t care how hot it is. Jean shorts are never an option.

Shoes. First off, your shoes should not be the most eye-catching part of your outfit. People’s attention will go where their eye lead them. Your feet is a poor choice. Another thing that many men still have not seemed to grasp is that if you wearing black shoes, wear a black belt. If you are wearing brown shoes, wear a brown belt. If you are wearing black shoes and a brown belt, or brown shoes with a black belt, you look like a fool. Also, men should not wear flip-flops. You just shouldn’t. Here is Emma Watson stating how she hates that American men wear flip-flops.

Let talk about the things that make you look like a creeper. Mustaches with no beard. Mutton chops (are you in a play?). Mullets. When in college, you are welcome to try stupid things with your facial hair. I get it, you’ve never been able to grow facial hair before and it would be hilarious if you had old school mutton chops. By senior year, it is time to get serious. If people are crossing to the other side of the street to avoid you, it is time to reevaluate your facial hair situation. They probably think you are the guy from the flyer the Neighborhood Watch handed out last week. Too much jewelry has this same effect. Chose wisely. Wedding rings are always acceptable (unless you are hitting on someone other than your wife) but any other ring is questionable. Watches are good, but keep a close eye on your bracelet choices. Necklaces are not cool. I’m down with the Catholic Saint necklaces or something that is truly meaningful, as long as it is tasteful and mostly unseen. Gold chains circa 1977, make you look like a creep. Less is definitely more on the jewelry intake.

Lastly, don’t try to hard. This may sound like the opposite of what I have been trying to get across, but if you care too much, that is also a huge turn-off. It should not take you longer to get ready than it does me. You should not look like you tried harder than I did. Your hair should not have so much product that I cannot run my fingers through it easily and without needing to wash my hands immediately after. You should not be any more tan that the amount of sun your skin has seen will allow. Your teeth should not be so white they glow in black light (I’m talking to you, Ross Geller).

Is there anything I missed?

How Did I Survive Before This?

Somedays, when I am sitting on my bed with my laptop sitting in front of me with my phone to my left while typing on my iPad, I wonder what did we even do before all of this technology. I remember the day we got internet in our house. I was 10 years old. It wouldn’t be for several more years that I would get my own cell phone (which only had the capability to make phone calls and play endless games of snake). There was no such thing as an app, or a blog, or even social media at its most rudimentary level. Now, I am rarely out of arms reach of my three major devices, all of which can pretty much do the same things. Yet I can’t seem to imagine my life with out any one of them. It is not the devices themselves that I love so much, despite what Apple may believe. It is the apps, the website, the email lists that I can’t seem to manage without.

This week, I talked to my regular group of ladies and asked them what were the digital gems that they could not live without. And now I am going to provide you with a combined list of our favorites.

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Where Did All My Privacy Go?

Slightly less than ten years ago, I got on Facebook for the very first time. Back then, Facebook was a small social networking sight that connected college students. At that time, Facebook provided about as much information about a person as the original AOL profile. There was no wall, no tagging. The only information you could find about me was what I wanted you to know.

Over the years, Facebook has changed, now you can view, not only all of the information I have posted about myself over the past ten years, but also anything others have posted about me, photos others have tagged me in, and, worst off all, places other people have tagged me. Not only can you always find me, but I can always figure out where other people are. Rather than the old fashioned Facebook stalking and Google searching we used to do to pick up bits of information on another person, you can accidentally stumble upon people’s whereabouts by glancing at your newsfeed. So, you have information I don’t want you to have about me, and I have information I don’t want about you.

I have been trying to figure out why some social networks work for some and others for others. I hate Facebook, but my parents love it. Apparently the lack of privacy does not bother them. Personally, I am a big fan of Twitter. Twitter is just short snippets of information. People who follow me can only see what I post, not information posted about me. And, just because someone follows me does not mean I have to follow them. Which means, my Twitter feed is comprised of only information I am interested from people that I think are funny. My sister loves Instagram, she loves that it is so easy. It is just a series of images she can glance at and only zone in on the ones that catch her eye.

My question is why is it that some people don’t mind this total lack of privacy? Why do some people feel the need to take it one step further and over share on their walls? Why is it that some people are more than happy to post their every location and tag all of the people that they are with? Why is it not enough to share every detail of your life, but mine as well?

There have been several articles written in the past couple of years about the influx of narcissism and how certain social media sites are contributing to it. It is difficult to say whether these sites are causing people to become more narcissistic or whether the growing narcissism is why people have become so taken with social media, but it is obviously playing a part.

It is an interesting query for which I have no real answers. All I can say is that every so often, it is probably a good idea to step back from the screen, talk to some real life people, and maybe think before you post.

I Think Your Tattoos Are Stupid…

Tattoos. They are the cause of much debate. Some girls like them, some girls hate them, but we all have opinions. There are certain tattoos, that are undeniably a bad idea, yet someone somewhere has decided that they would like it PERMANENTLY SCARRED onto their body.

I asked a group of ladies to discuss the tattoo issue. Here is what we came up with:

Tattoos are permanent. Even though they are not as permanent as they once were, they have the aura of permanence. What I see when I look at someone’s tattoos is, this is something you wanted on your body forever, and that says A LOT about who you are as a person. So think about that the next time you decide to make a long-term decision. Don’t get a tattoo just because you want a tattoo. It should mean something to you, something that will be just as important to you in 20 years as it is now.

Just because you really like something today: a girl, a band, a cartoon character, a sports team; does not mean you will still like that thing in ten years. Think back on what you were really into ten years ago. Is that still your favorite girl, band, cartoon character, or sports team? It is certainly possible. But girls dump you, bands break up or start making crummy albums, cartoon characters get played out, and sports teams move and/or start to suck. Things are always changing, but tattoos, tattoos are forever.

Did you have a super sweet nickname in either high school or college? Do people still call you that in your adult life? Did people ever really call you that or did you just want them to call you that? Also, if that really is your nickname, do you really need it written on your body? Why? So you don’t forget it? So the next time some girl sees you without your shirt on, she knows what a lame nickname you had? Don’t tattoo your name on your body. Or anyone’s name. Unless you can promise me, without a doubt, you will always love that person as much as you do right now. Always.

Ever think about getting a tattoo because you think it would be funny? You know how some people tell the same joke over and over again and then it ceases to be even remotely amusing? How about every single day for the rest of your life, will it still be a good joke then? My guess is probably not. Most things are not always going to be funny. And I doubt your brilliant and hilarious idea is really all that clever. Sober up and think about it for a while. Like six months to a year.

Another terrible idea is any sort of fad tattoo. Current phrases. How sick are you of YOLO? Remember when mustaches were cool before, and then super lame for about 30 years? If there is typically a hashtag in front of the phrase, I can guarantee you that you are going to look like an idiot in ten years.

Anything offensive is horrible. No woman wants to see a naked woman tattooed on your body. This was actually the number one tattoo that most women I spoke to complained about. I know that I once had a huge crush on this guy, then saw the naked woman tattooed on his arm and was immediately over it. Outside of this conversation, I never even think about the guy. So disappointing. Anything that could constitute as pornographic is a no go. Dirty jokes, anything remotely racist, sexist, or homophobic is a bad idea. Also, why? Do you want people to know that you are a misogynistic bigot? Is that the image you want to put out there? Granted, it would be nice if we could all see who you were. In the same way that anyone accused of being a pirate was branded in the 18th century by the East India Trading Company, so everyone could see that man and know that he was a pirate. This way we could see you and know that you suck. So maybe, I take that back…

I strongly recommend avoiding any kind of cliché. Tribal tattoos, barbed wire, etc. Do these things mean something to you? Are you or were you ever a member of a tribe? Were you ever bound with barbed wire? If the answer to either question is yes, then by all means. If not, find your own identity. It doesn’t look as cool as you think it does.

We all know a tattoo of a photograph is ALWAYS a terrible idea, right. This, I believe, is common knowledge. Yes? Good. Never get a tattoo of a photograph. It will never look right.

ALWAYS, ALL WAYS SPELLCHECK. If you are getting something written in another language, you absolutely have to do your research. If they are using a different alphabet, that goes double. Chinese characters are insanely complicated, a tiny line can change a word drastically.

You also need to seriously consider placement. Even if you think you will never work a job where you cannot have visible tattoos, you should always be able to cover them up with basic clothing items. If you cannot where a suit without your tattoos showing, that is seriously limiting. And with the job market being what it is, you may want to reconsider your life choices.

Placement is important even inside the can hide it with clothing areas. There are connotations to the various places you might tattoo yourself. Certain places may be considered by some a little too feminine like your lower back, hip bones, or the more delicate parts of your ankle. Some are a little too bold like anything that is covered by a bathing suit.

Tattoos that are a good idea:

Something in the memory of a beloved family member. Tasteful. Something that person would not think was stupid. You can love your family. That love is permanent. I think this is always a good idea.

Something to commemorate a MAJOR accomplishment in life. Did you climb Everest? Beat cancer? Graduate from a particularly difficult program? Or whatever other major challenge you have beaten. This is worth celebrating. If you want to decorate you body with your major life accomplishments, please, go right ahead.

Something you are really and truly passionate about. And will be for a very long time.

Obviously, not all women feel the same way about tattoos as the next. This is all a generalization of what a certain number of ladies that I have discussed the subject with have had to say. Some women will see certain things tattooed on your body and take it as a red flag and run. Some will not judge you for your mistakes or bad taste.  It may greatly depend on you and how much she likes you, but these are certainly things you may want to take into consideration before you start marking yourself up in any sort of permanent way.

10 Years Later

I have been struggling to try and figure out exactly what it is I want to say with this topic. I am not sure if it is because I have covered similar ideas in several posts over the last few weeks. Because of my 10 year reunion, the wedding of an old friend, and my birthday all falling within a span of a week and a half, I have pretty much covered what it means to grow older and look back.

I received a number of great responses for this week’s topic, all revolving around how different everyone is since graduating from high school, however many years ago that was. Reading these responses and seeing so many old friends over the past two weeks, I have been trying to figure out exactly what it is that has changed. We all have changed in different ways, become more or less of what we are or were, but the things is, none of us are truly different people. We are all the same at our core. I think what has changed is that we are all simply a little more self-aware and a little less self-obsessed.

Whether you were the cheerleader  who feared nothing more than a loss of popularity, the social butterfly who hated the idea of missing out on any fun, the mean girl who would do anything for power and control, the overachiever who was only concerned with class rank, or the hopeless romantic who was always pining for some boy. The things that made us these people are still a part of us. Now, you just know how to choose better friends and whose opinions actually matter, you know that having fun is important, but so is being able to keep your job, you know that power is fleeting and controlling people is no way to get what you want, you know that your goals in life are important, but so is having a life, you know that boys will come and boys will go and the right one will stick around (whether you like it or not).

I think that in 10 years, I will be standing around at my high school reunion talking to these same people, making the same jokes, telling the same stories, and I will be thinking back to this year and how stupid we all were now. We will be a little more self-aware, a little less self-obsessed. I think, that is what growing up really is. Maybe the reason we all fear it is because we are too selfish to want to be less self-obsessed. We are not quite ready to see who we are any more clearly than we do now. Over time, the veil will lift a little more and the fog will clear a little more and we will see ourselves for who we really are and that is, in fact, terrifying. Because, what if, at my very core, I am just a mean girl? What if all of the things that we have always wanted out of life never happen? What if we have to continue to let go of more hopes and more dreams in order to make room for real life. What if real life really does suck?

30 Is the New Black

I am still twenty-something, but I am closer to thirty now than I ever have been. And to be clear, that is very close. When I starting researching the topic of turning 30, I came across a TEDTalk that has sparked a great deal of conversation. It is called “Why 30 Is Not the New 20” given by the Clinical Psychologist who specializes in Twenty-Somethings, Dr. Meg Jay. In the talk, she wants to convey to twenty-somethings that this decade of you life totally counts. It is not a time for waiting for your life to begin, it is a major developmental period. I read a number of follow up articles all talking about the twenty-somethings of today (considered a part of the Millennial Generation, ugh.) and how we are selfish and lazy and have nothing to show for our lives.

Do you want to know what a person approaching 30 really needs to hear? That they have nothing to show for themselves. As though this was not a difficult enough time.

Reading all of these articles about twenty-somethings and turning thirty made me much angrier than I expected. First off, I am totally pissed that I am considered a part of the Millennial Generation. I refuse to accept this as I hate those kids as much as everyone else does. I am aware that I am not quite a GenXer, but I am not a Millennial either. This is a whole other topic that I will address in a future post as I am a little to heated to write about it now.

I am also irritated about how flippant people seem to be about us twenty-somethings. Yes, many of us are currently living back at home with our parents. Let’s not pretend for a second that this is an awesome set up and I am loving it. I am not Will Farrell’s character in Wedding Crashers. I hate it, but it is the rational responsible choice for me right now. I am trying to save up money, pay off my debt and keep a decent amount in savings. I, like many in my generation, am drowning in student loans; because, none of us were prepared for this amount of debt the day we graduated from college and entered the real world. Especially when it all went a little like this:

“Congratulations, here’s you diploma, better go get a job. Oh yeah, and here is the bill for the tens of thousands of dollars you owe us, don’t worry, you can pay this back over the next thirty years. One more thing, turns out we destroyed the economy while you were away at school, so… best of luck. P.S. We are also cleaning out Social Security, so there will be nothing left when you retire.”

Screw you, Baby Boomers. Screw you.

I am in my late twenties. I have by no means “made it” and I will not have everything I want out of life by the time I am thirty. I will not have much that I want out of life by the time I am thirty. I will have an education, which I spent exactly half of my twenties working on. I will have the beginnings of a career in a field I am deeply passionate about, which is what I spent (most of) the other half on. I will also have gone through some serious rough patches that momentarily derailed me. I will have known what it means to not be able to pay my rent, to have bills piling up and no money to pay them. I will know how to find odd jobs quickly to scrounge the money I need to make through a month. And how to ask for help (yes, from my wonderful parents) when I really need it. I will have known what it takes to pull myself out of serious financial debt. I will have known what it means to be clinically depressed and what it takes to come out on the other side. I will have had a series of relationships great and small and have a better idea of what I am actually looking for in a permanent partner. I will be on my way to having a career that I will love, not a job that I hate. Though I will certainly know what it is to have a job(s) that I hate.

If you are looking at my tax returns, it probably looks like I am one of those twenty-something slacker kids who can’t seem to get her life together. I do not have much to show for my twenties, but that is because what I have accomplished in my twenties is not necessarily quantifiable. You call us the slacker generation. Just wait. I may be sitting here in my bedroom in my parent’s house, working multiple jobs, none of which are in my field, but I am coming. I am not lazy, I am plotting my next move. I haven’t gone after what I want because I have seen people try and fail and I will not make those same mistakes (lack of preparation and financing being the primary issues). I know exactly what I want and I know exactly how to get it.

Turning thirty sounded scary before I started researching for this piece. I, too, felt I had nothing to show for my twenties. What I have learned is that I do not need to prove myself to the previous generations. I don’t want to accomplish what they have accomplished because what the hell have they accomplished? If you have everything you ever wanted by the time you are thirty, 1. What are you going to do for the remaining 2/3 of your lives? and 2. You can’t have wanted all that much out of life if you were able to get it all in ONE DECADE. Do you want to know what the previous generations have accomplished? They have destroyed our economy. They have destroyed our environment. And now they are trying to make us look like the bad guys? No worries, you all feel free to retire, soak up the rest of Social Security, and we will clean up the mess you left for us.

I may have nothing to show for the past ten years of my life (other than my multiple degrees), but check back in ten years. Thirty is not scary because that is when the hard work will start to pay off. That is when people will finally see what we are capable of. That is when the previous generations will see what we have been up to for the last ten years.

To see the TEDTalk:

To read some more on the topic:

NPR: TED Radio Hour: The Next Greatest Generation Hosted by Guy Raz

New York Times: What Is It About 20-Somethings? by By Robin Marantz Henig

Toronto Star: Why 30 Is the New 20 by Sarah Barmak

Huffington Post: I’m 30… Now What? by Andrew Cristi

AskMen: Turning 30 by Peter Hoare